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Express your love for that someone special with tokens of affection

Posted in Celebrations, Flowers/Plants, Love by Erineus on February 15, 2009

When a long-stemmed rose suddenly costs a fortune, heart-shaped stuff and goodies are all over the place, and restaurants, moviehouses, parks, and assorted dating places are packed to the brim, it must be Valentine’s Day.

Surely, love, sweet love is in the air. You can feel it as soon as you step into SM Megamall, what with its many hearty Valentine offerings and promos.

Aside from whispering sweet nothings to your special someone, you can always get her/him something sweet at SM Megamall where a lot of the stores are holding a sale throughout the month.

Now, isn’t that lovely?

Say it with flowers

We daresay that nothing says “I love you” — make that “I love you very much” — with more feeling than flowers. Be it the priciest flower arrangement that can bust the purse strings or a humble single rose that touches the heartstrings. As the time-worn but well-loved cliche goes, “It’s the thought that counts.”

Well, you can make that thought count by picking out the most loverly flowers guaranteed to bring out the glow in your loved one’s eyes. There’s a virtual garden of assorted blooms at SM Megamall you can give your loved ones — be it your significant other, a very special friend, Mom or Dad, or even Lola or Lolo.

A hot tip: Go get your flowers before the prices go sky-high on V-Day.

Don’t say we didn’t warn you.

Designer Blooms: Designed Not Just For Valentine

Keep love fresh this Valentine’s Day with fresh flowers from Designer Blooms. That romantic invitation comes from Designer Blooms owner Rica Garcia, who’s passionate about flowers. Now 18 years in the business, all of Designer Blooms flowers are locally grown while the seeds are imported.

Fresh is best, but enduring artificial flowers are the next best thing. Now blooming at Designer Blooms is its Valentine collection of silk flowers adorned with mesh, ribbon, and a stuffed toy. A single rose in a box costs P295 while a dozen roses with a large doll fetches P2,695.

“We also do fresh flower arrangements for Valentine,” says designer Dan Tarog.

But of course, Designer Blooms is not just for Valentine. It’s got all-occasion flowers. And you can be sure each one is designed with a lot of tender loving care.

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Designer Blooms is located at the second level, SM Mega A with telephone number 633-2490.

Holland Tulips: Dutch incredible!

When it comes to tulips, there’s just one name on everyone’s lips: Holland Tulips. Here, the tulips come in many different toothsome varieties: purple, yellow, orange, rococo, and alligator petals.

Of course, Holland Tulips does not only sell tulips. It’s got Malaysian mums, gerberas, roses, etc. and ornamental plants as well.

Especially for Valentine’s Day, floral designer Trixie Nuñez has put together different arrangements to delight the heart. For instance, she’s got a basketful of imported roses (a dozen) and white Malaysian mums, which she adorned with twigs, and costs P3,090. Another is a glass vase with two-toned (yellow and pink) tulips, two white long-stemmed roses, Million Star fillers, Song of Korea leaves, and some bear grass for a not-so-pricey P2,035. A cheaper arrangement, at P1,460, is a basket with a bear stuffed toy, Asiatic lilies, gerberas, bromeliads, Song of Korea leaves, beautifully wrapped with a sinamay ribbon.

“But it’s not just on Valentine’s Day that we get a lot of customers,” says Trixie. “The employees of the nearby offices of ADB and San Miguel come to buy their flowers during lunch break.”

Who says you need an occasion to buy flowers?

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Holland Tulips is located at the upper ground floor of SM Mega A with telephone number 635-6160. E-mail hollandtulips@philonline.com or log on to http://www.hollandtulips.com.ph.

King Louis Flowers: Flowers Fit For A Queen

When it comes to those regal Ecuadorean roses, King Louis reigns supreme. A dozen of these long-stemmed beauties costs P3,200, according to store attendant Fanny Gerongay. Anybody who gives you something like this that costs an arm and a leg must really have his heart set on you.

A less-expensive arrangement is a ceramic vase full of everything pink and pretty: pink carnations, pink gerberas, pink stargazers, and pink roses.

“We also do arrangements in all shades of yellow or orange, or assorted shades,” says Fanny.

King Louis has a big freezer where some of the fresh flowers are kept fresh.

Then our eyes are drawn to the white matiolas that speak of pure love. “Matiolas also come in in lavender, yellow, and pink,” Fanny tells us.

King Louis also has a lot of Oriental flowers like the alluring Asiatic lilies. And South American stunners, too, like the alstromerias.

For the queen of your heart, you can give an arm bouquet she can carry like a beauty queen.

Whatever the shade of flower you give from King Louis, your lady love is sure to be tickled pink.

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King Louis Flowers is located at the upper ground floor of SM Mega A with telephone number 635-6980.

Tecson Flowers: A Shower Of Flowers

Shower her with flowers, along with flowery compliments, by getting her some of those immaculate white Ecuadorean roses or blushing pink gerberas, and watch her blush.

You should have gotten your flowers two days ago, when you could have an Ecuadorean rose for only P250 or a Holland rose for P80. Now, they’re probably 20-percent more expensive. But did you say nothing is too expensive for the most precious love of your life?

Then go for the pretty arrangements of stargazer buds and blooms, statice, white corn, Million Star fillers, or red Ecuadorean roses with fuchsia gerberas.

Live, love, laugh, and smell the roses.

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Tecson Flowers is located at the upper ground floor, SM Mega A with telephone number 635-2771.

Funny Valentines

Funny, we love repeating this story of a guy who walked into a bookstore and bought five Valentine cards with this message: “To my one and only.”

Or how about these mushy lines that can turn your heart into putty: “There are only two times that I want to be with you. Now and forever.”

I remember a gal pal who was sobbing her heart out after she broke up with her boyfriend of many years. “I knew his love for me was not for real,” she said, her voice cracking, “because he always gave me plastic flowers on Valentine’s Day.”

Share a good laugh with the love of your life and enjoy choosing the perfect Valentine gift at SM Megamall, which has all sorts of fun and funny ideas for Valentine.

Purificacion: Please Don’t Eat The Daisies

At Purificacion, the daisies in many delightful colors look so delicious they leave you in a daze. Ahhh, there’s a lot more where they come from, that is, the flower farms of garden enthusiast Corazon Purificacion in Novaliches and Alfonso, Cavite.

Store attendants Dina Bandong and Aileen Baronet tell us that the Novaliches farm is all of two hectares. There, the most-prized orchids grow in abundance.

Orchids — phalaenopsis — in white, lavender, and yellow are among the hottest sellers for Valentine. They’re sold as plants complete with soil in pots. Give one of these to your special someone on Valentine’s Day and watch it — and your love for each other — grow every day.

At Purificacion, you can also pick your own flowers and have your own flower arrangement made by Purificacion’s creative florists.

The store also sells seeds, ornamental plants, pots, soil, and garden tools.

Just looking at these floral beauties is enough to make you fall in love with love.

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Purificacion is located at the upper ground floor of SM Mega A with telephone number 409-8589.

Humor Post: Humor-mongering and more

This Valentine, plush bears — small, medium, large — greet one and all “Happy Valentine’s Day” at Humor Post. How beary nice!

And then you’re touched by the story of Tatty Teddy, the unique grey bear with a blue nose and patches. The story goes that one cold winter, snowflakes fell on Tatty Teddy and his brown fur turned to grey. Feeling cold, unloved, and all alone, he was rescued by a little girl who spotted the grey bear in a pile of unwanted things and instantly fell in love with him. It didn’t matter that the unique bear had a blue nose and a lot of his stuffing had fallen out. The little girl scooped him up, dusted him down, and immediately ran home to her grandma to have the bear patched up (thus the patches where his fur had worn away). It’s a poignant love story that Humor Post loves to repeat Valentine after Valentine.

Other things to warm the heart on Valentine’s Day at Humor Post are mug and plush gift boxes, picture frames, trinket boxes, and funny cards. Especially for Valentine, Angelo Alcaide has designed some very lovely and funny pillows that are bound to inspire a lot of intimate pillow talk.

Yes, a dose of humor is good for the heart.

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Humor Post is located at the lower ground floor, SM Mega A with telephone number 634-2142.

Blue Magic: It’s Magic!

This is certainly one place where you won’t be blue. Blue Magic is an enchanted place for kids and kids-at-heart. For Valentine, there’s a Valentine corner filled with a lot of cuddly, pretty fun stuff. And a lot more lovely items designed not just for Valentine’s Day and not just for lovers.

“Love should be 365 days a year,” says Junjun Limgenco of Blue Magic. “And Valentine’s Day shouldn’t be just for lovers. It’s also a time to show gratitude to our parents, lolos and lolas.”

You’ll love Blue Magic’s Enchanted Garden collection that consists of handcarved religious icons made of scented wax.

And the magic of love lives on.

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Blue Magic is located at the third level, SM Mega B with telephone number 633-5551.

The beauty of love

The prophet Kahlil Gibran said, “Beauty is not in the face. Beauty is a light in the heart.”

This Valentine’s Day, let the light in your loved ones’ hearts shine through via gifts for the body and soul at SM Megamall.

The Body Shop: Good For Your Body And Soul

Catch a whiff of the Moroccan rose at The Body Shop with its ongoing Rose du Maroc promo. Discover marvelous Morocco with Rose du Maroc’s line of products that includes eau de toilette, milk lotion, body butter, shower gel, and room fragrance.

Get a 40-percent discount on your next purchase if you buy a Rose du Maroc EDT. A purchase worth P5,000 comes with a free canvas clutch and canvas tote.

Get the look of love with the Roseflower makeup collection with its romantic night look and fresh day look.

Where to spray your Moroccan Rose? But of course, everywhere you want to be kissed.

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The Body Shop is located at the upper ground floor, SM Mega B with telephone number 914-0431.

The Face Shop: About Face And More

Want to get the face that could launch a thousand ships? Go to The Face Shop which has come out with its Valentine beauty trends: alluring pastel shades in gleaming textures to create a romantic and refined look.

The key trend for the season focuses on delicate eyes in shades of pink and purple, luscious lips, and sheer pink to blush rose cheeks.

And the smacking good news is that for a P500 purchase of items in the makeup trends, you get a 20-percent discount on selected face makeup. And you get a pretty cosmetic pouch for free with every purchase of regular items worth P2,000. Promo runs until Feb. 28.

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The Face Shop is located at the second level, SM Mega B with telephone number 637-9650.

The Soap Factory: A Suds Story

We were almost tempted to bite into a cupcake until we saw the label: Do not eat. We almost forgot we were inside The Soap Factory, that’s got soaps shaped into the most delicious cupcakes, popsicles, cakes, donuts, munchkins, macaroons, and other goodies.

“Our soaps are all-natural,” says The Soap Factory manager Tina Espejo. “They’re made of vegetable oil and fruit extracts like orange, grapeseed, apple, moringa, and tomato.”

The Soap Factory makes all-occasion soaps. It also carries different body products made of tomato, pumpkin, cucumber, guava, and moringa, among others.

Kids can have fun inside The Soap Factory and make their own cupcakes and donuts to bring home.

You can’t but feel bubbly all over after visiting The Soap Factory.

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The Soap Factory is located at the fourth level, SM Mega Atrium with telephone number 706-5122.
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By Ching M. Alano
Updated February 09, 2009 12:00 AM
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Love in action

Posted in Love by Erineus on February 15, 2009

LOVE is one of the greatest, if not the greatest of all human qualities. It is a sincere and real caring for others put into action. Unselfish concern and service to others is a spiritual gift from God. This special gift from God is available to everyone. Unfortunately, not everyone is accepting this gift from God.

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Let me share with you stories about love in action. In 1 John 4:16, we find the following verse: “And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.” Love is better expressed in action rather than words. This is the reason stories about love never cease to lose their appeal.

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Here is one story:-

Bennett Cerf relates this story about a bus that was bumping along a back road in the South. In one seat a wispy old man sat holding a bunch of fresh flowers. Across the aisle was a young girl whose eyes came back again and again to the man’s flowers. The time came for the old man to get off. Impulsively he thrust the flowers into the girl’s lap. “I can see you love the flowers,” he explained, “and I think my wife would like for you to have them. I’ll tell her I gave them to you.” The girl accepted the flowers, then watched the old man get off the bus and walk through the gate of a small cemetery. (By R. Strand)

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Here’s another story:-

Moses Mendelssohn, the grandfather of the well-known German composer, was not handsome. He had a grotesque hunchback.

One day he visited a merchant in Hamburg who had a lovely daughter named Frumtje. Moses fell hopelessly in love with her. But Frumtje was repulsed by his misshapen appearance.

When it came time for him to leave, Moses gathered his courage and climbed the stairs to her room to take one last opportunity to speak with her. She was a vision of heavenly beauty. After several attempts at conversation, Moses shyly asked, “Do you believe marriages are made in heaven?”

“Yes,” she answered, looking at the floor. “And do you?”

“Yes, I do,” he replied. “You see, in heaven at the birth of each boy, the Lord announces which girl he will marry. When I was born, my future bride was pointed out to me. Then the Lord added, ‘But your wife will be humpbacked.’

Right then and there I called out, “Oh Lord, a humpbacked woman would be a tragedy. Please, Lord, give me the hump and let her be beautiful.”

Then Frumtje looked up into his eyes and was stirred by some deep memory. She reached out and gave Mendelssohn her hand and later became his devoted wife. (By R. Strand)

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Many of us have made hasty decisions in the past which we later regret. Especially decisions about love. Here is one such story.

One spring some time before the Civil War, a young man in search of work came to Worthy Taylor’s prosperous Ohio farm. The farmer knew nothing much about the young man except that his name was Jim. Still he gave him a job for the summer.

Jim spent the summer cutting wood for the stove and fireplace, milking cows, putting up hay, helping with the harvest, and anything else Mr. Taylor asked him to do. He ate in the kitchen and slept in the haymow.

Before the summer was over, Jim had fallen in love with Taylor’s daughter. The farmer refused to let him marry her, telling Jim bluntly that he had no money, no name, no job, no vocation, and the prospects for his future and the future of his daughter, if married to him, were poor indeed. So the farmer said “No” emphatically.

Jim got the message. Sadly he packed his few belongings into his old carpetbag and went on his way, never to be heard from again by the farmer or his daughter.

Thirty-five years passed, and the farmer Taylor decided to tear down his old barn to make way for a new and larger barn. When they got to removing the rafters above the old haymow, he discovered that Jim had carved his full name on one of the beams. That name was James A. Garfield. He was now the president of the United States of America!

Farmer Worthy Taylor missed that finest catch for his daughter that she could have had. The problem was compounded by the fact that Taylor’s daughter had indeed married a man with his permission and blessing. Now 30 years of heartbreak had proven the husband to be a no-good bum!

Have you ever been offered a “fantastic catch” only to have turned down the opportunity? What compounds the situation is to have lived long enough to regret that mistake in judgment or choice. (By R. Strand)

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From the Biblical standpoint, Jesus Christ offers the best kind of love – the opportunity to accept Him as our Lord and personal Savior. In John 3:16, we find the following verse: “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” Jesus Christ is God’s gift for mankind and He paid the full price for all our sins. God looks upon with us with love and forgave us even though we, being sinners, do not deserve it.

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Let us take time to read the Holy Bible every day. Because it is the Word of God; it is not just a book that contains the Word of God. Because the Holy Bible is relevant today. Because we need to enjoy a close personal relationship with God, our Creator. Because the Holy Bible gives us a picture of God as a God of love.

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Finally, as one Christian writer says, “the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.”

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This column continues to give out copies of the Holy Bible for free to those who cannot afford to buy their own copies. If interested, please send your letter-request to Ms. Nelly Favis Villafuerte, 5th Floor, Bangko Sentral ng Pilipinas (BSP), Roxas Blvd., Manila. Kindly mention if it is the Tagalog, English, Cebuano, or Ilocano version that is preferred.

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This column is also giving out for free a 42-page 3 x 5 inch booklet that briefly explains the doctrine of salvation presented in the Holy Bible. To those who are struggling as to what the Holy Bible really says on how souls can be saved from eternal damnation, please do not hesitate to write me and ask for a copy of this booklet. Let us not forget the Biblical verse that says “What profits a man if he gains the whole world and loses his soul?”

Be joyful and forgiving!

By Atty. Nelly Favis Villafuerte
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10 Surprising Health Benefits of Love

Posted in Health, Love by Erineus on February 14, 2009

Lower Blood Pressure, Fewer Colds, Better Stress Management Are Just the Beginning


“I need somebody to love,” sang the Beatles, and they got it right. Love and health are intertwined in surprising ways. Humans are wired for connection, and when we cultivate good relationships, the rewards are immense. But we’re not necessarily talking about spine-tingling romance.

“There’s no evidence that the intense, passionate stage of a new romance is beneficial to health,” says Harry Reis, PhD, co-editor of the Encyclopedia of Human Relationships. “People who fall in love say it feels wonderful and agonizing at the same time.” All those ups and downs can be a source of stress.

It takes a calmer, more stable form of love to yield clear health benefits. “There is very nice evidence that people who participate in satisfying, long-term relationships fare better on a whole variety of health measures,” Reis tells WebMD.

Most of the research in this area centers on marriage, but Reis believes many of the perks extend to other close relationships — for example, with a partner, parent, or friend. The key is to “feel connected to other people, feel respected and valued by other people, and feel a sense of belonging,” he says. Here are 10 research-backed ways that love and health are linked:

1. Fewer Doctor’s Visits

The Health and Human Services Department reviewed a bounty of studies on marriage and health. One of the report’s most striking findings is that married people have fewer doctor’s visits and shorter average hospital stays.

“Nobody quite knows why loving relationships are good for health,” Reis says. “The best logic for this is that human beings have been crafted by evolution to live in closely knit social groups. When that is not happening, the biological systems … get overwhelmed.”

Another theory is that people in good relationships take better care of themselves. A spouse may keep you honest in your oral hygiene. A best friend could motivate you to eat more whole grains. Over time, these good habits translate to fewer illnesses.

2. Less Depression & Substance Abuse

According to the Health and Human Services report, getting married and staying married reduces depression in both men and women. This finding is not surprising, Reis says, because social isolation is clearly linked to higher rates of depression. What’s interesting is that marriage also contributes to a decline in heavy drinking and drug abuse, especially among young adults.

3. Lower Blood Pressure

A happy marriage is good for your blood pressure. That’s the conclusion of a study in the Annals of Behavioral Medicine. Researchers found happily married people had the best blood pressure, followed by singles. Unhappily married participants fared the worst.

Reis says this study illustrates a vital aspect of the way marriage affects health. “It’s marital quality and not the fact of marriage that makes a difference,” he tells WebMD. This supports the idea that other positive relationships can have similar benefits. In fact, singles with a strong social network also did well in the blood pressure study, though not as well as happily married people.

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By Sherry Rauh
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What agape love is not

Posted in Love by Erineus on February 14, 2009

It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5

When Paul wrote to the Corinthians, he said that love is not rude. “Love does not behave itself unseemly” is the way the King James version puts it. This kind of love separates itself from the in-your-face rudeness often displayed today. We are living in a time when civility seems to take a back seat to brashness – in our speech, in advertising, in the way we treat each other.

Ask yourself, “How would I feel if I were on the receiving end of my humor or my comments?” Any act that makes another feel inferior, embarrassed or offended falls into the category of rudeness. Agape love shows the restraint that keeps you from hurting another, no matter how funny you think what you want to say is.

The seventh characteristic of agape love that Paul lists is that love is not self-seeking. One word summarizes this negative. It is selfishness, as opposed to generosity or being self-sacrificing.

The selflessness of agape love insists the other has the larger piece of steak, the last piece of chocolate and the softest side of the bed.

The eighth characteristic of agape love in this list of descriptions found in 1 Corinthians 13 is that love is not easily angered. Paul doesn’t say that agape love never yields to anger, because there is a time and a place for anger. Paul then says agape love keeps no record of wrongdoing. It thinks no evil. I never cease to be amazed at the instant recall some people have for the faults and failures of another. Agape love, says Paul, is forgetful. It forgives and forgets. It refuses to fight fire with fire. It returns wrongdoing with acts of kindness. It’s the kind that turns enemies into friends.

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By Dr. Harold J. Sala
Updated February 08, 2009 12:00 AM
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Love’s in the head, not the heart

Posted in Love, News Feature by Erineus on February 13, 2009

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WASHINGTON – Like any young woman in love, Bianca Acevedo has exchanged Valentine hearts with her fiance.

But the New York neuroscientist knows better. The source of love is in the head, not the heart.

She is one of the researchers in a relatively new field focused on explaining the biology of romantic love. And the unpoetic explanation is that love mostly can be understood through brain images, hormones and genetics.

That seems to be the case for the newly in love, the long in love and the brokenhearted.

“It has a biological basis. We know some of the key players,” said Larry Young of the Yerkes National Primate Research Center at Emory University in Atlanta. There, he studies the brains of an unusual monogamous rodent to get a better clue about what goes on in the minds of people in love.

In humans, there are four tiny areas of the brain that some researchers say form a circuit of love.

Acevedo, who works at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, is part of a team that has isolated those regions with the unromantic names of ventral tegmental area (VTA), the nucleus accumbens, the ventral pallidum and raphe nucleus.

The hot spot is the teardrop-shaped VTA. When people newly in love were put in a functional magnetic resonance imaging machine and shown pictures of their beloved, the VTA lit up. Same for people still madly in love after 20 years.

The VTA is part of a key reward system in the brain.

“These are cells that make dopamine and send it to different brain regions,” said Helen Fisher, a researcher and professor at Rutgers University. “This part of the system becomes activated because you’re trying to win life’s greatest prize – a mating partner.”

One of the research findings isn’t so complimentary: Love works chemically in the brain like a drug addiction.

“Romantic love is an addiction; a wonderful addiction when it is going well, a horrible one when it is going poorly,” Fisher said.

“People kill for love. They die for love.”

The connection to addiction “sounds terrible,” Acevedo acknowledged. “Love is supposed to be something wonderful and grand, but it has its reasons. The reason I think is to keep us together.”

But sometimes love does not keep us together. So the scientists studied the brains of the recently heartbroken and found additional activity in the nucleus accumbens, which is even more strongly associated with addiction.

“The brokenhearted show more evidence of what I’ll call craving,” said Lucy Brown, a neuroscientist also at Einstein medical college. “Similar to craving the drug cocaine.”

The team’s most recent brain scans were aimed at people married about 20 years who say they are still holding hands, lovey-dovey as newlyweds, a group that is a minority of married people. In these men and women, two more areas of the brain lit up, along with the VTA: the ventral pallidum and raphe nucleus.

The ventral pallidum is associated with attachment and hormones that decrease stress; the raphe nucleus pumps out serotonin, which “gives you a sense of calm,” Fisher said.

Those areas produce “a feeling of nothing wrong. It’s a lower-level happiness and it’s certainly rewarding,” Brown said.

The scientists say they study the brain in love just to understand how it works, as well as for more potentially practical uses.

The research could eventually lead to pills based on the brain hormones which, with therapy, might help troubled relationships, although there are ethical issues, Young said. His bonding research is primarily part of a larger effort aimed at understanding and possibly treating social-interaction conditions such as autism. And Fisher is studying brain chemistry that could explain why certain people are attracted to each other. She’s using it as part of a popular Internet matchmaking service for which she is the scientific adviser.

While the recent brain research is promising, University of Hawaii psychology professor Elaine Hatfield cautions that too much can be made of these studies alone. She said they need to be meshed with other work from traditional psychologists.

Brain researchers are limited because there is only so much they can do to humans without hurting them. That’s where the prairie vole – a chubby, short-tailed mouselike creature – comes in handy. Only 5 percent of mammals more or less bond for life, but prairie voles do, Young said.

Scientists studied voles to figure out what makes bonding possible. In females, the key bonding hormone is oxytocin, also produced in both voles and humans during childbirth, Young said.

When scientists blocked oxytocin receptors, the female prairie voles didn’t bond.

In males, it’s vasopressin. Young put vasopressin receptors into the brains of meadow voles – a promiscuous cousin of the prairie voles – and “those guys who should never, ever bond with a female, bonded with a female.”

Researchers also uncovered a genetic variation in a few male prairie voles that are not monogamous – and found it in some human males, too.

Those men with the variation ranked lower on an emotional bonding scale, reported more marital problems, and their wives had more concerns about their level of attachment, said Hasse Walum, a biology researcher in Sweden. It was a small but noticeable difference, Walum said.

Scientists figure they now know better how to keep those love circuits lit and the chemicals flowing.

Young said that romantic love theoretically can be simulated with chemicals, but “if you really want to get the relationship spark back, then engage in the behavior that stimulates the release of these molecules and allow them to stimulate the emotions,” he said. That would be hugging, kissing, intimate contact.

“My wife tells me that flowers work as well. I don’t know for sure,” Young said. “As a scientist it’s hard to see how it stimulates the circuits, but I do know they seem to have an effect. And the absence of them seems to have an effect as well.” AP

Source: Philippine Star
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Updated February 13, 2009 12:00 AM
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Poll: Pinoys believe first love never dies

Posted in Love, News Feature, Surveys by Erineus on February 12, 2009
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MANILA, Philippines – More than half or 55 percent of Filipino adults believe that “first love never dies,” while seven out of 10 Filipinos agree with the statement, “If you love someone then set him free, if he/she comes back again it was meant to be,” the Social Weather Stations (SWS) reported after a recent survey.

The Fourth Quarter 2008 Social Weather Survey was conducted from Nov. 28 to Dec. 1, using face-to-face interviews of 1,500 adults divided into random samples of 300 each in Metro Manila, Visayas, and Mindanao and 600 in balance Luzon.

The December 2008 survey asked the respondents, “Naniniwala po ba kayo sa kasabihan na ang unang pag-ibig daw po ay hindi namamatay (Do you believe in the saying that first love never dies?)”

The survey showed that 59 percent of the respondents in the Visayas, 57 percent in Mindanao, and 52 percent each in balance Luzon and Metro Manila believed in the saying.

Three out of five or 60 percent in Class E respondents believe in it, 54 percent in Class D, and 47 percent in Class ABC.

Belief that first love never dies is similar among men (56 percent) and women (54 percent), the SWS said.

By age group, 58 percent of those 55 years old and above believe in it, 56 percent among those aged 35-54, 52 percent among those aged 25-34, and 49 percent among those aged 18-24.

Fifty-eight percent of those who are married share this belief, 54 percent among those with live-in partners, and 45 percent among those without spouse or partner.

To the survey question, “Naniniwala po ba kayo o hindi naniniwala sa lyrics ng kantang nagsasabing: Kung mahal mo ang isang tao, palayain mo siya, at kapag siya’y bumalik ito’y itinadhana? (Do you believe or do not believe in the lyrics of a song stating that: If you love someone then set him/her free, if he/she comes back again it was meant to be?),” 81 percent of respondents in Metro Manila, 79 percent in balance Luzon, 78 percent in the Visayas, and 74 percent in Mindanao said they believe in it.

By class, 79 percent of Class D respondents believe in the statement, 77 percent among Class E, and 76 percent among Class ABC.

Seventy-seven percent of men and 79 percent of women believe in it.

The non-commissioned survey has sampling error margins of plus or minus 2.5 percent for national percentages, plus or minus six percent or Metro Manila, Visayas and Mindanao, and plus or minus four percent for balance Luzon.

By Helen Flores
Updated February 12, 2009 12:00 AM
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